Things That You Are Not Doing That Are Hurting Your Goals

Things That  You Are Not Doing That Are Hurting Your Goals
It is March and about 90% of people who set their New Years Goals on January 1 have already failed.

Why does that happen? Someone has good intent, and then they don't achieve what they set out to do.

Here are a few things that you many not being doing that  are hurting your chances of achieving your goals:
 
1.  You are not setting attainable goals

Many people set goals that are too big or abstract. They have good intentions, and want to achieve the goal, but they don’t create a plan on how to actually reach that goal.
 
For example, one of my clients wanted  to run a 10K race, but they have never run a mile before. I helped her create SMART goals, which are smaller goals that can help her achieve her big goal.
 
SMART goals:
Specific
Measurable
Accountable
Realistic
Time Measured.
 
If you want to run a 10K by June, how are you going to do that?

You can start by making a plan for a month.

I will run 2 miles, 3 x a week for 4 weeks.  

This specifically says what you will do,  when you will do it, how you will do it and it is in a specific time frame.
 
 
2.  You are not planning out the time needed to achieve your  goals
 
I teach my clients to put their SMART goal plans in their planner or calendar. If you want to spend more time with your spouse, plan a date night and put it on your calendar. When are you going do those 3 weekly runs? I suggest to my clients to sit down with their planners on Sunday night and plan out their week, so they are sure to get in their runs, yoga class, or coffee with a friend.
 
3. You do not have any accountability

I suggest to my clients to find an accountability partner. This could be someone who will work out with you, or who you can check in with each week. If you think you might back out of going to the gym, having someone who will be there waiting for you will make you think twice about not showing up! It is really nice to have someone cheer you on, and who you can support as well.
 
4.  You don’t believe that you can actually achieve your goals

This is where mindset comes in.  The mind is a powerful thing! Our brains does not know if what we are saying to ourselves is true or false. So, if you are saying, I want to lose weight, but I fail every time, or I am terrible at running, or I cannot do this, your brain believes you.
 
What can you do? 

Develop a habit of speaking positive affirmations to yourself. It may sound silly, but your mind will start to believe what you are telling it.
 
Here are a few to try:
  1. I am healthy and radiant
  2. I am capable
  3. I am strong and confident
  4. I am successful at achieving my goals.
 
Choose one affirmation to focus on for 3-5 days.  Write your affirmation on sticky notes and put them everywhere you can see them- on your mirror, by your bed, by your sneakers, in your car.
 
When we have a positive mindset,  set SMART goals and have accountability, we can take those smalls steps forward that will help us to achieve our goals.

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Sheri is a mom, wife, coach, author, speaker, and educator. She helps women in midlife to gain energy, be healthy, and to find JOY again. She lives near Cinderella's castle in Winter Garden. Florida with her family.

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How to set goals for 2021

How to set goals for 2021
Have you ever had that year- that year when everything was going to be different?




You set your New Year resolutions  in January , and you are ready to  achieve those goals no matter what.   Maybe you're going to run a marathon, or you are going to lose 50 pounds. Maybe this is the year that you are going to become neat and organized.  
 
And then what happens?  
 
You start out in January all gung-ho, ready to crush those goals.  You start working on them in January, and then maybe something happens.  You get sick, or family members sick or your schedule at work changes.  Maybe it's too cold and snowy and rainy outside, and you can't get out to get those daily runs.
 
Whatever it may be, these obstacles get in your way.  Then it becomes February… and then March,  and all of a sudden those resolutions you made in January are now a thing of the past.  
 
How do you feel about it?  I know for me when I've set lofty goals or resolutions in January, and then I don't meet them I don't meet them, I feel sad and disappointed in myself.  I feel angry and I feel frustrated.
 
 So how can we create change in our lives, and create goals that will help us to move closer to our big goals, without feeling disappointed or feeling overwhelmed?
 
I suggest creating SMART goals.  Did you know that only 8% of people keep their New Year's resolutions? Why not try SMART goals instead?
 
What are smart goals ?
Smart goals are short term goals that  are easy to attain. We can create small goals that lead up to big change, by creating momentum in meeting these small goals.
 
SMART goal are:
  1. SPECIFIC: SMART GOALS are not vague,  such as to be better at something.  Instead there more specific goals,  like “I am going to increase my core strength this month” .
  2. MEASURABLE- SMART goals are  measurable.  You're giving yourself a target date or target time to complete your goal,  and if you fall behind little it's OK.  You  can catch up.
  3. ACCOUNTABLE:  SMART goals are also accountable. These goals  set you up to be more accountable part, giving you an opportunity to take personal responsibility. It is a great idea to let someone else be accountable with you! Tell a friend,  tell you partner, or even  post your goals on social media!
  4.  REALISTIC – SMART goals are realistic- they are achievable and they're going to set you up for success, rather than set you up for failure.
  5.  TIME- SMART goals are time sensitive.  You  establish a date when each goal needs to be accomplished.
 
 My  challenge to you  this year is, instead of creating New Year's resolutions,  go ahead and create some smart goals! And if you need help, I have got you!! Click the link to join my free  challenge “Embrace The Mess: Women Finding Balance in 90 Days!”, so that you can live out your true purpose and start to DREAM BIG!

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Sheri is a mom, wife, coach, author, speaker, and educator. She helps women in midlife to gain energy, be healthy, and to find JOY again. She lives near Cinderella's castle in Winter Garden. Florida with her family.

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Wrapping Up 2020

Wrapping Up 2020
It is December 1st!!

For countless people, December is a month for celebrating and focusing on family, friends and what’s truly important. It’s a month for great food and fun times . . . and giving gifts.

But before you get out the wrapping paper and ribbon, why not inventory your accomplishments over the past year and recommit to the things you wish you’d done?
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