Things That You Are Not Doing That Are Hurting Your Goals

Things That  You Are Not Doing That Are Hurting Your Goals
It is March and about 90% of people who set their New Years Goals on January 1 have already failed.

Why does that happen? Someone has good intent, and then they don't achieve what they set out to do.

Here are a few things that you many not being doing that  are hurting your chances of achieving your goals:
 
1.  You are not setting attainable goals

Many people set goals that are too big or abstract. They have good intentions, and want to achieve the goal, but they don’t create a plan on how to actually reach that goal.
 
For example, one of my clients wanted  to run a 10K race, but they have never run a mile before. I helped her create SMART goals, which are smaller goals that can help her achieve her big goal.
 
SMART goals:
Specific
Measurable
Accountable
Realistic
Time Measured.
 
If you want to run a 10K by June, how are you going to do that?

You can start by making a plan for a month.

I will run 2 miles, 3 x a week for 4 weeks.  

This specifically says what you will do,  when you will do it, how you will do it and it is in a specific time frame.
 
 
2.  You are not planning out the time needed to achieve your  goals
 
I teach my clients to put their SMART goal plans in their planner or calendar. If you want to spend more time with your spouse, plan a date night and put it on your calendar. When are you going do those 3 weekly runs? I suggest to my clients to sit down with their planners on Sunday night and plan out their week, so they are sure to get in their runs, yoga class, or coffee with a friend.
 
3. You do not have any accountability

I suggest to my clients to find an accountability partner. This could be someone who will work out with you, or who you can check in with each week. If you think you might back out of going to the gym, having someone who will be there waiting for you will make you think twice about not showing up! It is really nice to have someone cheer you on, and who you can support as well.
 
4.  You don’t believe that you can actually achieve your goals

This is where mindset comes in.  The mind is a powerful thing! Our brains does not know if what we are saying to ourselves is true or false. So, if you are saying, I want to lose weight, but I fail every time, or I am terrible at running, or I cannot do this, your brain believes you.
 
What can you do? 

Develop a habit of speaking positive affirmations to yourself. It may sound silly, but your mind will start to believe what you are telling it.
 
Here are a few to try:
  1. I am healthy and radiant
  2. I am capable
  3. I am strong and confident
  4. I am successful at achieving my goals.
 
Choose one affirmation to focus on for 3-5 days.  Write your affirmation on sticky notes and put them everywhere you can see them- on your mirror, by your bed, by your sneakers, in your car.
 
When we have a positive mindset,  set SMART goals and have accountability, we can take those smalls steps forward that will help us to achieve our goals.

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Sheri is a mom, wife, coach, author, speaker, and educator. She helps women in midlife to gain energy, be healthy, and to find JOY again. She lives near Cinderella's castle in Winter Garden. Florida with her family.

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Wrapping Up 2020

Wrapping Up 2020
It is December 1st!!

For countless people, December is a month for celebrating and focusing on family, friends and what’s truly important. It’s a month for great food and fun times . . . and giving gifts.

But before you get out the wrapping paper and ribbon, why not inventory your accomplishments over the past year and recommit to the things you wish you’d done?
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Family time-Forced, Or Fun?

Family time-Forced, Or Fun?
Can I ask you a tough question? 
 
What was it like being isolated with your family during the lockdown?
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Coulda Woulda, Shoulda- Live Life Without Regrets!

Coulda Woulda, Shoulda- Live Life Without Regrets!
Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda.
 
I don’t want to be a person who has regrets. I want to live my life to the fullest- I want to have fun. I want to spend time with my family and friends, and I don’t want to miss out on anything.
 
Sometimes I take risks because I know that the risk will be worth the reward. I have a lot on my plate right now, but I know that all I am doing is going to bring joy to my family, as well as to the people that I am helping and serving.
 
I think a lot of my lessons comes from my parents. I watched my dad retire, move full time to Florida, which he had always dreamed about- and then a year later he was diagnosed with cancer. I watched my mom work so hard, first as a stay at home mom, then full time in an office job, then get sick in her 60’s and later she passed away from Alzheimers.  Neither of them were able to enjoy retirement, enjoying free time, or time with their grandchildren.
 
I learned from their experiences  that I wanted to enjoy life all along the way- not just when I retire. We go on lots of fun family vacations, I go on girls’ trips with my friends, I run and do things for ME- I don’t want to look back and wish I had enjoyed these moments.  With my son I have truly enjoyed every moment as a mom- and I have appreciated every moment.
 
What about you? When you think about your life, do you look back and have regrets? Did you not take that vacation? And now you are regretting that time you could have spent with your family? Have you stayed in a job that  has been stressful and unfulfilling? Have you not spent enough time with your friends?
 
I think that the last months of 2020 can be used for reflection-and to make plans to move forward. To find joy, to take risks, to do things that make your heart happy. This is it-this is life-and it is not a dress rehearsal. 
 
What are you going to do so that you don’t have regrets?

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Will You Pivot?

Will You Pivot?

Have you ever seen the episode of friends about when they have to pivot to move the couch? Ross, Rachel and Chandler are trying to get the couch up the stairs, and they have to keep turning it,  and  trying different ways to get the couch up the stairs. This is how 2020 has felt for me, and I think for a lot of people.
 
There's been so much pivoting in our world,  we were all kind of turned upside down back in March.  For you, maybe your spouse unfortunately lost their job.  Maybe you went from working and being around people every day, to working at home.  Maybe your kids are distance-learning, or they are doing a hybrid thing, and they're learning at home while you're trying to work as well.   Maybe you haven’t been able to spend time with extended family, or haven’t been able to have fun or with your friends social occasions for vacations.
 
We are trying to make sense in this unbalanced world, and I know that it can be hard to stay positive.  It can be hard to move forward.  It can be hard to find the best in this situation. But,   I am a making “lemonade out of lemons” kind of gal, and I have to try to find the good in what happens.  I have been through more more difficult stuff than 2020- I've lost both of my parents to terrible diseases. I suffered from autoimmune disease-  I couldn't get out of bed, and  I was so sick and tired and suffering depression  a few years ago that I had a break down.  
 
But I don’t let this stuff take me down-  I use these situations to grow and to learn, to get stronger, and then to help others. I think that when we're handed a difficult situation we need to pivot, and try to find the best in whatever that may be.  
 
I have been open to possibilities for learning, even though some things didn't work out the way that I wanted them to back in January.  I was going to be traveling and having fun as I turned 50. But honestly,  I really think that this year has been a blessing to me because I've learned and I've grown, and I making changes that are going to affect my whole entire life.
 
We spent more time together as a family. I grew relationships with friends,  and my wellness and running community. My husband and I grew our first vegetable garden, and I grew even more grateful for what I had, instead of dreaming about this I wanted.
 
So, I think that the lesson here is that you're going to be thrown some curveballs in life-whether it is  an illness for you or someone in your family,  job stress,  change in relationships.
 
There are two ways that we can approach those the situations.  We can be angry and bitter- we can just stay stagnant and just except the change and not do anything about it.
 
 Or we can take those situations, and we can grow from them, learn and pivot.


 
It is really all up to you. Will you pivot?

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XO 

Sheri
 
 
Sheri is a mom, wife, coach, author, speaker, and educator. She helps women in midlife to gain energy, be healthy, and to find JOY again. She lives near Cinderella's castle in Winter Garden. Florida with her family.

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